The Mirror of Life

I had a couple of jobs that I hated, just hated.  It was bad. 

I hated waking up in the morning, it was that bad. 

Whenever I thought of work the day before going to work, I would feel sick.  It was THAT bad!

It wasn't that the work was hard, difficult or un-fulfilling -- it was the environment. Actually, to tell the truth, it was the bosses.  I hated them!  Which was not like me at all because I like people.

My family laughs at me because I like people so much, I rarely see their faults.  I always have an excuse for them or I'm really sympathetic of their circumstances. I find myself explaining to my family why that person does what they do, or way they are the way they are.  And I'm afraid that I obnoxiously point that out at every turn.

But these two bosses were different, I could not stand them.  Everything they did irritated me. 

I found them irrational, emotional, always picking at at little things and letting big things fall apart.  The things they should have been concerned about they would just brush off.  They where demanding in ridiculous ways, wanting the impossible not from themselves, but from everyone around them. But what was most frustrating, was their obvious fear of their "power."  Basically, they were unsure of their power and tried to hide behind others. 

This fear manifested into forcing their "stuff" (insecurity, worry, paranoia, trust issues) onto their employees (mainly me) to manage.  While at the same time, of course, their employee's life, problems or emotions couldn't and shouldn't interfere with work.  To top it all off, they would threaten your job and would get really upset if an employee threatened to voluntarily leave.

They played this perverse game of not communicating their expectations but never apologizing when the outcomes of their actions showed evidence of this fault.  Inconsiderate of people's time, appointments and meetings schedules, especially when they clearly don't like the person.  Promise things to people and then drop the duty of fulfilling the promise onto an employee (usually me) to complete it.

All these things were really getting to me, making me hate my life.

Eventually, I had enough of this abusive life and quit.  These types of bosses seem to never actually fire anyone.  I guess the "threat" of termination is where the power is.  

In any case, it took me years after these incidents to understand that I went through this "trial by fire" to show me what I don't want.  Let me explain.

Today, I am lead over a marketing and communication department of a small organization in my community as well as CEO of my own communications company.  At this point in life, I am considering and actually hiring people to work for me and now I'm conscious of what type of boss I will am.

In helping people gain wealth, open businesses and employee people, I realize that the most successful of them have a clear idea of several things and can easily answer these questions:

1.  What type of boss do I want my people to consider me to be? 

Do I want people to think of me as fair?  Do I want my employees to "like" me?  Do I want my employees to think I have their best interest at heart?  Do I want them to respect me?  Do I want them to fear me?  Do I want them to be loyal to me?  Do I want them to think I'm intelligent? Hard-working? Professional?

 
2.  What type of atmosphere do I want for my office, my organization?

Do I want a "fun" office atmosphere where everyone is always smiling and being creative?
Do I want a "quiet" office atmosphere where everyone is focused?  Do I want a laid-back environment or a conservative environment?  Will the office be noisy?  Busy?  Somber? Will it be colorful or tastefully conservative?  Will there be plants all around?  Will it be open concept or will people have offices?   


3.  In my ideal dreams, what would my organization "look like" or "be like"?

Will it be big or small? Will it be structured traditionally with me at the top with a corner office and everyone subordinate to me?  Will it be team-driven where titles mean nothing and projects are the prime focus?  Will it be diverse?  Will it represent the community it is in?  


These questions really matter.  It not only matters toward your success, because seriously, if you can envision it, then you can DO it!  It matters toward your LIFE and the LIFE of the people that will be around you.  Let's face it, the bosses I hated were not getting "the best" out of their employees and truly dampened their potential.  This was all because these bosses could not look inward and deal with their issues, so their issues leaked out in their work.  Working with them was simply a waste of energy and a waste of time.  And frankly, it just opened the door for other organizations to swoop up good employees (yes, I'm a GREAT employee, if I do say so myself) and help skyrocket these other company's success, gains and efforts by doing so.

I am truly grateful for my "bad boss" experiences.  It puts me in check for my next grand moves in hiring, supervising and succeeding with my employees.  But the key to my success will be . . . the work I did BEFORE the employees came on board.  Answering the three questions above and looking in that mirror of life asking myself "What kind of boss will I be?"

Look in the mirror.  What kind of boss will you be?

Take this Quiz:  What Kind of Boss Are You?





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IF YOU WIN THE LOTTERY: A simple way to keep your riches

There are so many stories of how people lose their winnings when they have a windfall, such as winning the lottery.  Here is a simple way to keep your windfall working FOR you for years!

It's really simple.  Ready?

Let's say you've won the lottery.  Let's imagine the smallest win in California which is $7 million.

If you take the cash value of that win, you can say goodbye to 50% of the winnings.  So, you actually get a lump sum of $3.5 million.  Oh but wait, you have to pay your taxes!  If you consider Federal and State Taxes subtract 40%.

So, take your $3.5 million x .40 = $1,400,000.  Now $3,500,000 - $1,400,000 = $2,100,000


So, ultimately you will receive a check for $2,100,000 (they actually wire it to your account, but I digress).  Now let's create simple steps to make your life better for the rest of your life.


Step 1.  Hire a tax advisor, financial advisor and attorney.  It's very important that you do this first because these guys can help you avoid taxes & fees and keep people who will try to take your money (troublemakers) away from your winnings.  This should cost you no more than $25,000 initially (warning: if they want more than that, find another advisor)
($25,000)

Step 2. Get rid of debt.  Most U.S. Citizens have no more than $100,000 in debt.  Let's just say for this exercise you have $100,000 in debt.
($100,000)

Step 3.  Charity brings good karma and is a great tax deduction, so take 10% of your winnings and give to charity.
($210,000)

Step 4.  Play time!  What good is winning anything if you don't take some of that money and play with it.  You have permission to spend (some) of your winnings on frivolous things you've always wanted.  Take 10% and play, play, play
($210,000)

Step 5.  Now take the rest of your winnings and put it in a safe investment yielding at least 6% per annum. Your financial advisor will be able to tell you were you can find investments that will yield 6-10% in interest SAFELY.  For this exercise we'll calculate with a conservative 6%, your financial advisor may be able to help you gain a higher yield.

You have $2,100,000 (cash winnings) - $545,000 (Steps 1-4) = $1,555,000

So,  $1,555,000 x .06% = $93,300 per year.

If you keep this cash winnings in this investment, never touch that $1,555,000 million and leave it in that account you will receive at minimum $93,300 per year.  This is your yearly salary, without working a 9-5 job, automatically.  With no debt, could you live on $93,300 a year?

I don't know about you, but I sure can!

And as long as you take out $93,000 a year from your account or LESS, you will always be a millionaire.  If you decide to take LESS than $93,000 a year  . . . say $75,000 a year, you will grow your million into multi-millions within a few years!

And THAT is how you win the lottery, live well and still have millions YEARS later.

Now that you have a concrete plan if you win the lottery.  Go buy a ticket!  And good luck.

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Telecommuting Jobs: Health First

Founded in 1993, Healthfirst is a not-for-profit managed care organization, sponsored by some of the most prestigious and nationally recognized hospitals and medical centers in New York and Long Island. They offer a variety of government-sponsored health insurance programs covering children, adults, seniors, and small businesses.

They are one of the fastest growing health plans in New York and New Jersey with over one million members and a network of more than 24,000 providers. Healthfirst's vision is to treat our members with the same care and attention we would want for our own families.

This company usually has 8-10 Telecommuting jobs open. This company is on the East Coast.  Check out the Telecommuting Job listings here.




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Telecommuting Jobs: RED VISION

Premier nationwide provider of comprehensive, uniform title reports and property information in support of all types of real estate transactions. What we are really saying is that we hire the best people and offer our customers the complete package.

RedVision is a growing, innovative company with exciting career opportunities nationwide. It is our mission to consistently deliver comprehensive title reporting and property research solutions through our knowledgeable team and innovative technologies. Our talented workforce is dedicated to exceeding commitments to our customers with an unrelenting desire for operational excellence.

Work-Life Balance

RedVision seeks to recruit staff from a wide range of backgrounds with diverse experience and expertise. 

RedVision offers positions for full-time and part-time/Flexpert® (variable hourly).
Many positions offer telecommuting opportunities where a large number of employees work from home.

You should look at their remote/telecommuting jobs. 



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How do music stars go bankrupt?

We are continuing with the lesson on BIG MONEY and how NOT to become bankrupt.  

Music stars, yes, music stars live a very glamorous life right?  

They ride in fancy cars, wear the latest clothes, diamonds, houses, jet planes, champagne . . . all in front of the camera.  Yes, it's great.

But what they don't tell these stars is when the cameras stop recording and they are sitting at home alone, they better break out the Excel Spreadsheets . . . or better yet, the pen and paper and calculator and make sure they have money left over.

Here is the Late Great Lisa "Left-eye" Lopez of the singing group TLC explaining how a group that should over 10,000,000 records in one year (yes, that's 10 million) can be in bankruptcy.  

Listen carefully, because all this information can be controlled from the beginning if you work your CONTRACTS correctly (which most people that gain a big wad of money do not do).  When someone starts talking to you and mentions money that is in the millions.  Time to talk to a lawyer and make sure that lawyer is getting you EVERY ADVANTAGE on that contract.  

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What should you do if you get BIG MONEY!

Josh Childress explains: What Happens When You Sign A $11 Million Deal In The NBA 

There are a lot of people (more than you are aware) that fall into money.  Yes, this can happen to you.  You could win the lottery, become famous, become a sports star or win a settlement . . . and of course you could inherit [it can happened!]

If you are going to have big money, you have to be ready to manage BIG MONEY.  The stats show that people that have a "wind fall" (i.e. a lot money gets dropped into laps) are broke within 3-5 years.  We are NOT going to have that happen to you.

Here are some people that know what it's like to have sudden money.  Listen to their story and take notes of what they did.  You, my dear, are NOT going to be them.

Antoine Walker Lost $110 Million Dollars

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Never Give Up on Your Dream!

What can I say?  Time passes.  Are you still fighting for your dream or have you given up on it? My dream has always been the same - (1) to be a successful business woman making six-figure income from my own business and having the freedom to enjoy my family and loved ones.  (2) To write for a living and do all the things that I love to do so that work feels like FUN.  (3) To help people gain their dreams so that I can have powerful and influential friends.  I hope you have joined me in my adventure.  

Happy 2015 everyone!

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Start the Next Chapter

It's the end of the year.  I hope I've given you motivation to begin living your dreams. If you haven't gotten as far as you wanted to go, don't fret.  If you made lots of mistakes this year . . . good for you!  At least you got off your butt and did something.

This is the time to shake off the past.  Don't look back now!  Keep looking forward.  Yesterday is done, can't change it.  Today is what you have and where you start.  Let's do this!

Happy New Year and Happy New Adventure people!


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What to Look for Along Your Path Toward Your Destination

We have to stop focusing on what is going on in our lives right now.  All the many problems, crisis, what we need, what we don't have, obstacles, etc.  The point is, just because you don't have all the pieces to make your dream come true, doesn't mean that you won't discover all the tools you need as you travel down your path.  

In other words, don't let your condition today, stop you from what you can gain tomorrow.  

If you really want something, go ahead, embark on the journey.  Begin.  You will be surprised what you will find as you are walking down that path.  

One time, I remember taking a walk with one of my grandmother's good friends who liked to hike in the wilderness.  I was a young kid of around 10 or 11.  And the old man loved walking the large state parks that surrounded our area, but he was getting to old to be wandering around alone.  I thought I was doing this old man a favor, when in fact he was doing me the favor.  He was teaching me how life worked . . . simply by walking with me.  

He had decided that we would walk the path on Wild Cat Canyon.  The area was named well, for there were sightings every now and then of big wildcats in that area during bad weather events such as drought. As we started our walk and entered the thicker trees, he stopped for a moment finding a long piece of wood about 2 inches thick and as tall as he was.  He told me to keep a look out for a piece of wood about my height.  A few steps further and we found one to fit me.  I remember listening to the birds and the thunk, thunk, thunk that his staff made as he walked.  I soon used my staff to make harmonizing beats . . . thunk, thunk, thunk.  While he quietly talked and we walked, I noticed that he would stop and bend down every now and then and pick up smooth, heavy rocks and put them in his pocket.  Soon we came to a stream and he told me the best way to find streams, to always find pathways along streams when hiking, how to gather water, what to look for in streams for clean water, how to hold and clean water if you don't have fire to sterilize it and many more things about finding water in the wilderness.  We came across some berries that birds were joyfully eating and he told me how to know when these types of berries were good to eat and proceeded to tell me about roots that are also eatable. 

As we walked, I realized the lesson I was learning.  We started the path with absolutely nothing that would be helpful along this journey.   Identification cards, money, and communication devices are not helpful in the middle of a state park.  What one needs on THIS PATH is . . . . (1) A WALKING STICK, which has many uses.  It can help you walk when you get tired or if you injure yourself during the walk.  You can use it to make noise as you walk to warn animals of your arrival and allow them time to clear a path (thunk, thunk, thunk).  Or, it can be used as a defense mechanism in case you meet up with an aggressive beast (non-human or human).  (2) STONES, another defense mechanism but this one can be used as a long-range defense system.  If we had met up with an actual wildcat or other aggressive creature, a good throw of a stone could save your life.  (3) WATER, if you become lost or injured you will need water, a person can live without food but they can not live without water.  Water is necessary for survival.  (4) FOOD or survival and energy.  Pick the wrong thing to eat and you can poison yourself.  

Notice, that we had none of those things at the beginning of our journey, but we found all those things along our journey. This is how life works.  You rarely begin a journey with all the resources you need.  The most efficient journeys use resources along the way. 

In essence, being prepared is not the same has having everything you think you need for the journey.  Being prepared is knowing what you need to finish the job.  My friend knew that if we were going to walk safely through Wild Cat Canyon, we would need a walking stick, some heavy stones, water and a source of food (if we were gonna walk longer than a day).  He was prepared, because he knew WHAT TO LOOK FOR ALONG THE PATH.  Most people think you are prepared if you are holding everything you need and will not start the journey unless they have packed everything.  What most people think is what stops us from reaching our goals.

You will find what you need on the path to your destination.  You just have to be aware of what you need before embarking on our journey so you recognize the tool/resource when you see it.  Now that you know the secret . . . begin your journey today!


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Is it Impossible?

On December 5th we mark the one year anniversary of Mandela's death. The year slipped away so quickly didn't it?  Next year, in 2015, it will slip away even more quickly.  

If you are not making the steps to begin making the life of your dreams come true -- you should beginning this today.  It's not impossible.  Your dream, your goal is NOT IMPOSSIBLE.  You can do this.

Get it done and show the impossible wrong.

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Don't Be Afraid to Share

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The Way to Be Truly Thankful

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Help Others and Become Successful

Make others successful and you will automatically become a success!  When you start your business, think about your customer or your client.  When you get a new job, think of your customers and your employer.  Pull yourself outside of your own needs, outside of your head, outside of your world.  The key to this method is: satisfying others to create the best testimonials and recommendations is best advertisement for your business, your talent or your knowledge. More importantly, successful people are surrounded by others that are very successful.  The best way to surround yourself with successful people is to MAKE them successful!  

Are you getting the clue?  Good, because I've always wanted to be surrounded by powerful, successful and influential friends and YOU are my best shot!

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The best social media network to use ?

Just recently, someone asked me: What is the best social media network to use to market my real estate business?

The answer is simple.  The best social media network to use is the social media network that most of your clients/customers are using . . . easy huh? 

But besides this obvious answer, seriously think about your business and your industry.  Which social media network would be the best tool to promote your business?  

Let's just say you are in the business of music . . . Soundcloud or any social network that features audio and allows your music to be played easily should be the social network you should focus on.  

Let's say your business is real estate, you should look at social media networks that allow you to feature pictures or video of your properties, which would be maybe Pinterest, or Google+ or Instagram.  

Are you a consultant?  LinkedIn groups or Facebook pages would be the logical tool to highlight, feature and sell your consulting services to an audience interested in your topic.

But, more importantly then finding the right social media network to amass an audience, when you are beginning your online marketing efforts you should focus on developing your audience on ONE social media network.  

Let me explain the logic of my method: when you focus on one network you reduce the changes of being overwhelmed by social media tasks.  Also, you will have a much greater success in developing an engaged audience that will follow you anywhere.  Why is an engaged audience that will follow you so important? Because if you have an engaged and loyal audience you can direct them to other social media networks and accounts you will open in the future.  

Let's just say you have worked hard and smart and developed a large audience of 3,000 followers on Twitter.  Great, but you have a real estate business and featuring your business on Pinterest would be much more suitable for your business.  On Pinterest you would be able to feature photos of your latest properties for sale and even feature a video tour or two. Because you developed a loyal following of 3,000 people on Twitter, it would be a simple matter of you opening a Pinterest account, pinning your photos and videos of properties and then going back to Twitter and letting your audience know that they can "view" some of your properties on your new Pinterest account!  Wha-la, an instant Pinterest audience.

But don't be an amateur social media user, the point is not to acquire numbers . . . 5,000 followers, 1,000 connections, 10,000 likes mean nothing! The real key to success on any social media network is the interaction you have with your audience.  Truly, you should focus on acquiring an audience on the social networking platform that you enjoy visiting and using -- because you will be visiting this site often to talk to your "people."  The key to success is to have conversations with your audience.  Responding to comments, questions, concerns are key to developing a loyal audience of potential clients. 

So, in summary:

1.  Use the social media network that your potential clients love to use (your audience is there, you just have to let them know that you are there to help them);

2.  Focus on developing an audience on one social media network before venturing onto others when you first start out (focus your efforts);

3.  The point is to be available to your potential clients and easily engage with them no matter what social media platform you use.

 Good luck in your endeavors! 


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Telejobs - Amazon (Seasonal Customer Service)

It's that time of year you guys!

Customer Service Jobs
http://www.amazon.com/gp/help/customer/display.html?nodeId=200692640&view-type=stand-alone

Virtual Call Center Jobs
http://www.amazon.jobs/team/virtual-call-center


Amazon offers a competitive base pay and bonus opportunity, time off, some shift flexibility (shift swaps, flex scheduling), an employee discount, and dedicated resources to support your ongoing growth and development.  

All you need to get started is talent and customer obsession, a home computer with high speed internet, an analog phone line, and a dedicated, distraction free home workspace. 

We know working from home is new to most people, so we want to give you as many facts up front as possible for you to make an informed decision.  Here is some additional information for you to know about working from home for Amazon:

• We’ll prompt you to run a quick, online computer diagnostic to ensure your home computer meets our technical requirements for the job.  We respect your privacy, and are only checking for the following technical requirements (and we’re sorry, but we don’t support laptops, tablets, Macs or Linux for this role):

• Windows 7 or Windows 8
• 64-bit Operating System
• Windows Auto Update
• Antivirus Software
• Firewall Activated
• 5 MB/second or higher download speed Ethernet connection

• Base pay is $11.00/hour.  Plus – think of the money you’ll save on gas, work clothes, and dining out when you work from home!
• Seasonal employees may remain with Amazon in a temporary capacity for up to six months, depending on business need. There may be opportunities for regular long term employment. 
• Both full and part time opportunities are available, but hours for all staff increase substantially during our peak season (Thanksgiving through mid-January).  A few weeks before and after December 25 is our busiest time.  

• We’ll usually ask full timers to work overtime above 40 hours for a few weeks
• We’ll usually ask part timers who typically work 20-29 hours per week to scale up to 30-40 hours during this time
• Our Virtual Contact Center is open from 5AM – 11PM Pacific Standard Time.  Some level of schedule flexibility is required and expected, as available shifts include days, afternoons, and evenings, typically one or both weekend days, and occasional overtime. 
• If you’re a student, we’ll do our best to work around your school schedule.
• Flexible schedules are available for those who want the option.  You can build the schedule that best matches your personal needs with the coverage we need in order to provide excellent service to our customers!
• It is highly likely that as a new hire, you’d start off on a late afternoon or evening shift, and will work at least one weekend day.

Qualifications

Basic Qualifications

• 1+ years prior Customer Service Experience
• High School Diploma
• Must pass criminal background check
• Excellent computer skills; strong familiarity with Microsoft Office, email, chat, and the Internet
• Outstanding communication skills
• Ability to participate in and successfully complete, initial mandatory training (M-F for an average of 3 weeks). All training is completed from home!
• Ability to take any shift Sunday through Saturday from 5:00am to 11:00pm in your local time zone (set schedules will be assigned on your first day of work).  Please note that most shifts for new hires will be evening shifts and will include one or both weekend days.
• Be able to attend an onsite new hire orientation in Albany, OR.

Work from Home Office/Technology requirements:

• Your home address must be in the state of Arizona. Any applicants with home addresses outside of Arizona will not be considered.
• Have a desktop PC meeting the aforementioned technology requirements (No laptops, tablets, or Macs).
• Have (or be able to obtain) Ethernet High Speed Internet (5mb/s download speed or better) from a reliable provider.  Wireless internet is not permissible.
• Have (or be able to obtain) a dedicated analog telephone land line from a reliable carrier (must be installed before you can start).
• Secure, dedicated, and distraction-free home workspace (free from background noise and  interruptions, i.e. spouse, children, roommate, pets, TV, etc.) for your entire shift.
• Another means of communication (personal landline or cell phone, for emergency purposes only).

Preferred Qualifications

• Associate’s degree or higher
• 3+ years' experience as a customer service professional
• Prior experience working independently in a virtual environment
• Strong familiarity with online shopping and internet research

Amazon is an Equal Opportunity Employer

Additional Information To apply go to: www.amazon.com/csajobs

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It's okay to ask for help

Okay people, let me tell you this:  Asking for help is not a signal of weakness.  In fact, the opposite is true.  The people that believe that it's perfectly natural for others to help them achieve their dreams are the most successful people.

If we are going to be successful millionaires, we have to get over the our whole "I can do this all by myself" mentality.  Seriously, people do not build empires all by themselves.  An empire has "people" in it . . . large amounts of people.

In fact, pulling people together and asking for help from a large group of people is the key to success.  People who are building companies, or dreams, knows that relying on people to help is a necessary - correction, a fundamental piece to the puzzle. 

Successful people do not allow these types of issues to "hold them back" from their goals.

UNSUCCESSFUL PEOPLE ISSUES . . .

Issue #1:  Because I'm asking for help, I'm broadcasting to everyone that I don't have the ability to do this for myself.

Issue #2: If I ask for help, people will laugh at me and reject my pleas and I'll look foolish or stupid.

Issue #3:  Asking for help is a sign that I don't know what I'm doing and I hate to look unprofessional.

Issue #4:  People who help me often don't do it the way that "I" would do it. I just hate for anything connected to me to look half-done and unprofessional.  I'd rather do it myself.

Issue #5:  People are generally incompetent.

Issue #6:  When I ask for help, someone always inadvertently lets me down and I end up doing it myself anyway.

HOW TO WORK WITH PEOPLE . . .

So, how do you get people to jump on the band wagon?

• Let them in on the dream;
• Make the dream so appealing that they just have to join in;
• Let them know they can join in;
• Ask them to join in;
• Don't be such a perfectionist, let others do it the way "they" do it - you don't own the rights to "perfection".

If you take the above attitudes to heart, this will ultimately help you create a "tribe", a group of people that share your dream and see themselves as a part of your dream -- your vision.  You know what makes asking for help much easier?  Cultivating people that want to help you achieve that dream.  Having trusted friends, colleagues, and people that you know are competent and talented . . . makes it so much easier to ask for advice, or favors, or work or whatever!

Now, do you know how to make sure people keep being a part of your tribe and sticking their dreams into the success of your dream?  Well you say THANK YOU of course . . . in other works, you pay people for their assistance.  And there are so many ways to pay people back for the help they give you.  

There are really FIVE (5) great ways of saying "Thank You" that really work:

1.  Money (paying for talent, knowledge and skill is always the best way to get the best help).

2.  Give people of your "tribe" referrals.  Tell other people who will pay or give favor to your "helper" for their talents, skills and experience.

3.  Acknowledgement (public and private).  For some people, that's all they need.  All they want is someone to recognize their efforts.

4.  Gifts and/or Giftcards and other treats

5.  Help them with future favors (an exchange of talent, skills, experience) so they can realize THEIR dreams as well!

So now you know the fundamentals to building your empire.  When you become emperor of your "dreams come true", don't forget about the little guys who helped you build it, my most powerful and influential friend!


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Do people recognize as soon as they meet you?

I'm not sure if you all know the story about my climb to gain powerful and influential friends.  If not, listen up, it's important because it demonstrates the power of THE MIND.  It also solidifies the notion that YOU are the controller of your life and your life experience.  Seriously, if you want to have something, be something or do something . . . you have to CONVINCE yourself that you have it already.  That's it.  That's the secret.


I know about this secret because it happened in MY LIFE.  Yes, I lived it!  So, I can tell you with confidence that this simple truth really works.  In my case, one day I was getting a guest list together for a big event.  My husband and I were going to get all our friends together for an elegant celebration.    I was looking through the list to note if we had some prominent people in it, so I could entice some of the reluctant friends to come to the event (I have a set of friends that just want to sit around the house and watch sports and stuff.  It is often a task to get them to unstick their butts from their couches.) As I was compiling the list and, taking the hint from Santa, checking it twice . . . I realized that my husband and I were the most powerful and influential of all of our friends.  


What a sad statement, because my husband and I  (at the time) were broke nobodies.  


I looked at the list and realized, that all these people came to US for advice.  All these people came to US for a loan of money when things got tight.  All these people did the same things (usually not much of anything) day in and day out.  All these people never did anything daring or exciting or different.  Basically, if my husband and I were in a pinch financially, legally, employment-wise, spiritually . . . we were basically on our own.  Wow.  


Kind of distraught, I went to my husband and said, "Look at this!  We are the most power and influential of our friends.  This is crazy -- this is wrong.  Shouldn't we have people we can go to for advice?  Shouldn't we have people we consider mentors?  Shouldn't we be around people that we at least aspire to be like?"


My husband calmly looked at the list and said:  "Yes.  But here's the thing, if you want powerful and influential friends you have to seek out powerful and influential people.  Those types of people are busy doing cool stuff.  They don't just fall in your lap.  You have to seek them out.  You have to make an effort to be all the things powerful and influential people like.  You have to be interesting, knowledgeable, fun, adventurous, different, approachable, understanding and positive.  You have to be all those things FIRST to attract them.  You have to want powerful and influential friends CONSCIOUSLY."


So, I started conditioning myself.  I started telling myself that I'm interesting.  That I'm unique.  That my life is fun and I do fun stuff and interesting people would LOVE to be around me.  I started looking around for new friends that were doing daring things that I've always wanted to do.  I kept prepping my MIND, saying to myself:  "My life is interesting and fun.  I'm going to meet interesting people and I'm gonna do interesting things that I've always wanted to do and some new things that I haven't thought of yet."


Suddenly, I started recognizing all types of opportunities that came my way.  Invitations to parties and events.  Opportunities to travel.  Opportunities to meet people outside my current circles.  Opportunities to learn new stuff.  I said YES to the majority of them (didn't have enough time to say YES to all of them).  


About a year later, I realized I had added a whole new circle of people into my life.  And because of those people, I was doing a lot of things I hadn't before.  I was doing fun things. My life was richer, better and much more interesting!  I was looking forward to weekends.  I was telling old friends that they had give me much more notification of events they planned because I was BOOKED for the next two to three weekends with really cool stuff to do! And really cool people to do it with!


Do you want an more interesting life, with interesting people, doing interesting stuff? Then YOU have to believe that your life is interesting, full of interesting people doing interesting things.  YOU have to believe it before anyone else does!


Don't believe me?  Here is Dave Chappelle describing his first encounter with Kanye West before Kanye was known by anyone.  Dave Chappelle says, when he met Kanye, he "knew" he was a star.  












Do people recognize your potential as soon as they meet you like Dave Chappelle did Kanye West?  Maybe it's because you are not convinced yet what type of life you want to lead.  I want a life full of powerful, influential and interesting people -- and I'm in the process of getting that.  Kanye wanted to be a star -- and he got that.  What is your life supposed to look like?


All I know is . . . right now, mostly because of you guys, my life is dope!









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Your Environment and Circumstances . . .

The other day, one of my friends asked me if I really believed some of the things I write about.  In particular that one's environment and circumstances are a reflection of one's thoughts.  He went on and on pointing out all the obvious reasons why I should discount this belief that I espouse.  

He pointed out that I was born on the lower-economic echelon of Great American economic ladder; that I was African-American and a female in a male dominated world; my education was not the best; I know very few people of influence; I was the statistical fatherless child growing up --  the list went on and on.

Yes, I agreed, all those things are true.  And most people would be angry at all the unfair treatment that a little black girl from the poor side of town, who didn't know her father, received on a regular basis all through her life.  But, I had a whole extended family  of 30+ people who loved and supported me.  My primary education wasn't the best, but I pushed myself through college and hold a degree in a field that I love.  Through hard work and money management skills, I'm no longer in the lower levels of the economic ladder.  And I'm part of a wonderful nuclear family that has a dedicated mommy and daddy and three bright kids. I do the work that I love.  And all through my trials and tribulations I have had wonderful friends, family and fans of my work that keep me motivated and smiling on a daily basis.

Yes, the world can be rough and brutal and I've seen some really messed up stuff and people have done some terrible things to me and near me, but I can still hold on to the principal that your mindset determines the condition of your environment and your circumstances.

Shaking his head, he still could not understand how this could be.  How I could think this way . . . so, I told him a story. That made this very clear to him, I think.


 There is an old fairy story about the Sun and Earthly Creatures.

One day, the Sun was listening to some earthly creatures 

talking about a very dark place they had found. A place of 

deep, dark abyss. A Stygian darkness, of gloom and 

forbidding. Each creature told how terrifically horrible and

dark the place had seemed. They went on and on about this 

place they had found, describing it in great detail.

Curious, the Sun went and looked for this place. He went to 

the exact spot they had described. He searched 

EVERYWHERE, but he could not find even a tiny shadowy 

spot.

He came back to tell the earth creatures he couldn't find it, 

and in fact, he did not believe there was any dark place.

For you see, we only see our reflection - the energy we give 

off. Darkness is the absence of light. Evil is merely the 

absence of good.

BE THE SUN my friend.

P.S. I failed to point out to my friend one thing on his list that was very, very wrong. I DO know people of influence and power.  YOU!  Stay powerful and influential my friends!



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How Do You Make Your Dreams Come True?

How do you do it?  Well, I've been telling you how to do it.  But sometimes, you have to hear it from people that you know, love, trust and admire.  So here it goes.  From three men that have made it big in show business.  Listen to them.  They are telling you the truth.

Jim Carrey

"You Might As Well Take A Chance"

Steve Harvey 

"You Have to Jump"

Tyrese 

"If you want it, go get it!" (some profanity)

Now, go out there and be the powerful and influential people that I know you can be!

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